Pro-lifers need to get with the program

I was on pro-choice advocates the other day, now it's my turn to get on pro-life advocates.  When I was on my journey to try and find help for my frozen embryo issue, I encountered something I never thought I would - pro-life advocates turning their backs on me.  Huh? People would secretly say they would help me but did not want anyone to know it in their pro-life circles.  Say what? I will say that I have had some individuals who are pro-life support me outwardly, but not many.  Apparently, staunch pro-lifers do not believe in IVF, the procedure that allows infertile couples to conceive.  Ok, I kind of understand that.  They believe that if God did not make you fertile that you should just deal with it and not take advantage of science to allow you to conceive.  They see it as "playing God".

Well, first of all, I have a problem with that reasoning, since sometimes when a sperm and egg get together, life is being created inside of a woman.  And every time, we have sex we have the possibility of creating life.  In my opinion, God determines which lives survive and which do not.  The IVF process, in my case, started off with 10 eggs and only 4 embryos were created.  The other 6 did not survive.  That's God.  Science cannot replace that.  Also, what if you needed a liver or kidney transplant?  Just because God gave you a bad organ, do you just have to deal with it and die?  I think not.  In my opinion, God gave us a brain to use and create things.  And he gave us guidance in that great book called the Bible to be ethical.  We have free choice and how we handle these issues are all choices we make.

Secondly, isn't the pro-life movement about saving lives?  Regardless of where you stand religiously with IVF, does it really matter HOW the lives were created?  Of course not.  If you are pro-life, you would not ask every woman going into an abortion clinic if she was a prostitute and if she was, you wouldn't say "oh okay, it's okay for you to kill your unborn because I don't believe in how you conceived your child."  Of course you wouldn't.  So, why do it for those who chose IVF?  It simply makes no sense.  Bottom line, this is the next pro-life issue on the horizon and the pro-life movement needs to get with the program if they want a front seat to save some lives.  Otherwise, they will be holding up signs at cryobanks, just like they do at abortion clinics and that will be it.


Jalesia “Jasha” McQueen is a Mother of 3 boys (one who has Down Syndrome), Veteran, Attorney, Entrepreneur and is currently in the Missouri Appellate Court seeking custody of her embryos, Noah and Genesis. “My dear Noah and Genesis, may you survive and be born.”  Jasha is co-founder and Director of Embryo Defense, a Missouri nonprofit organization dedicated to educating and providing resources for anyone who believes in saving human embryos. www.embryodefense.org.